AWESOME! So you got that contact from her first, without coming off as needy or desparate. Now you've just begun the switch my friend.
First and foremost, DON'T revert everything you just did and worked for by saying things like THANK YOU, I'VE MISSED YOU SOOO MUCH, or by constantly responding right away to text and calls. DO NOT DO THIS.
TAKE YOUR TIME in responding, and stay busy. Be nice to her when she contacts you, and never come off as though your down or depressed. Utilize time dialation a bit.. Take several minutes answering text to build up that anticupation. Or speak briefly on the phone, like 5-10 minutes, and be happy (but more so happy about what's going on in your life - not that she's calling you) and busy. Stay upbeat, and tell her you'll get back to her or ask her to get back to you later.
If she calls you later, tell her your real busy, or out with a friend, and you'll call her the next day. Do call her the next day, but wait till towards the end of the day - that night. Otherwise, wait a day or a little longer before you call her back.
After a little while go ahead and plan to do something. Girls are more attracted to men that lead, and make plans, and have ideas - not that say what do you want to do, or are indecisive. Tell her you were already headed somewhere, and if she wanted to come along, or tell her you wanted to check out this movie, diner, etc.. Take her shopping with you. Have her do something you plan.
Avoid bringing up anything bad about the relationship, and keep the conversation, calm, friendly, and upbeat.
Don't spend a lot on her. Don't buy her presents.. Avoid any emotional swings, stay strong, like your having a great time without her in your life still, and that your in control of your life.
You guys hit it off great, and now suddenly you find yourself in the bedroom, and ? Keep checking for more updates.. Should have an updated post very soon.
Monday, August 30, 2010
Saturday, August 28, 2010
Starting Fresh - "DROP COMMUNICATION"
Hey Guys,
You know that feeling bubbling up in your hearts, where you want SO MUCH to talk to her, to BE WITH HER again.. and you keep on TRYING and TRYING, but it seems like she just moves farther and farther away? Well then...
STOP! Just STOP TEXTING, STOP CALLING, STOP EMAILING!!! and ABSOLUTELY LEAVE HER ALONE.
NOTE: Do not tell her of your intention to do this. Just Do it.
I KNOW HOW HARD THIS CAN BE, trust me. Especially, when you want nothing more in the world than to talk to her and hold her again. WELL THAT's WHY YOUR HERE. What you've been doing wasn't working right? RIGHT!. So now, TRUST me and STOP Communicating with her. Depending on HOW MUCH you've already BUGGED and PESTERED her this may take a little time or a lot of time. If you really want her, note now - you need some PATIENCE and PLANNING. That's why I'm here for you.
REASON Why we stop:
Believe me, when you've put so much effort and attention into communicating with her, and suddenly you just disappear.. She will start wondering what's up??? Why are you not there anymore. She will start thinking about YOU more and MORE. Let her WONDER. This is GOOD. Your esentially returning the energy back, sort of like Yin/Yang.
It's natural for humans to want what they can't have. The more NEEDY and WANTING you are the LESS ATTRACTIVE you appear in her eyes, and the more she KNOWS that she can have you whenever she wanted IF SHE WANTED, so she can just go along with ANY OTHER GUY and come back to you ANYTIME. You FULLY HAND OVER CONTROL TO HER and appear to be a WHINY, SLOPPY, WUSSY. THE VAST MAJORITY OF GIRLS LIKE ALPHA MALES. CONFIDENT Men, that are not NEEDY.
Be Patient, and let the energy eventually change paths... Keep reading tips to see how to MAGNIFY THIS FLOW.
TECHNIQUES To aid in Stopping:
OK, so you say I CAN'T STOP.... IT'S TOOOOO HARD. I feel you, I feel you, I've been in that absolutely horrible, heart-breaking stage myself - otherwise I wouldn't be creating this.
DO THESE --
Wondering what to do WHEN SHE'S STARTS TEXTING, CALLING, and EMAILING YOU BACK? Subscribe, and stay tuned for future posts! For now, just ignore her, and let her be.
You know that feeling bubbling up in your hearts, where you want SO MUCH to talk to her, to BE WITH HER again.. and you keep on TRYING and TRYING, but it seems like she just moves farther and farther away? Well then...
STOP! Just STOP TEXTING, STOP CALLING, STOP EMAILING!!! and ABSOLUTELY LEAVE HER ALONE.
NOTE: Do not tell her of your intention to do this. Just Do it.
I KNOW HOW HARD THIS CAN BE, trust me. Especially, when you want nothing more in the world than to talk to her and hold her again. WELL THAT's WHY YOUR HERE. What you've been doing wasn't working right? RIGHT!. So now, TRUST me and STOP Communicating with her. Depending on HOW MUCH you've already BUGGED and PESTERED her this may take a little time or a lot of time. If you really want her, note now - you need some PATIENCE and PLANNING. That's why I'm here for you.
REASON Why we stop:
Believe me, when you've put so much effort and attention into communicating with her, and suddenly you just disappear.. She will start wondering what's up??? Why are you not there anymore. She will start thinking about YOU more and MORE. Let her WONDER. This is GOOD. Your esentially returning the energy back, sort of like Yin/Yang.
It's natural for humans to want what they can't have. The more NEEDY and WANTING you are the LESS ATTRACTIVE you appear in her eyes, and the more she KNOWS that she can have you whenever she wanted IF SHE WANTED, so she can just go along with ANY OTHER GUY and come back to you ANYTIME. You FULLY HAND OVER CONTROL TO HER and appear to be a WHINY, SLOPPY, WUSSY. THE VAST MAJORITY OF GIRLS LIKE ALPHA MALES. CONFIDENT Men, that are not NEEDY.
Be Patient, and let the energy eventually change paths... Keep reading tips to see how to MAGNIFY THIS FLOW.
TECHNIQUES To aid in Stopping:
OK, so you say I CAN'T STOP.... IT'S TOOOOO HARD. I feel you, I feel you, I've been in that absolutely horrible, heart-breaking stage myself - otherwise I wouldn't be creating this.
DO THESE --
- BURN Memories. Pictures, gifts, I know they mean the world to you, but there also causing you great pain in remembering and thinking of her. Were going to start FRESH and She's going TO FALL BACK IN LOVE WITH YOU, or FALL IN LOVE WITH YOU FOR THE FIRST TIME. Try this - Write on a note, or a picture of her, or one she gave you -- All of the PAIN, HURT, and SORROW she has caused you. Feel it all, and let it SOAK INTO THAT PAPER, that PICTURE... Let it melt out of your hands and being, and visualize it going into the paper, then BURN IT! Surrender! and LET GO! You will feel a lot better once you really just surrender.
- Try googling around for "Toltec Recapitulation" Techniques, and learn a little about this in general. This is a breathing/meditative excercise that let's you release pent up, painful memories, and let's the universe, or god (it's a religious neutral excercise - you can even ask god, or the universe to aid you before) resort them out for you. Breathe out PAINFUL MEMORIES, and LET THEM GO! Focus on the out breath.
- Keep yourself BUSY.
- Go Have Fun!
- Hang out with FRIENDS. - Staying home alone letting negative thoughts and painful emotions and memories bubble back up is the worse thing you can do... Make it appoint to go do ANYTHING that will DISTRACT you from HER for now.
- IMPROVE YOURSELF - Goto the gym, Focus on YOUR HOBBIES and INTEREST.
- Do Things You Love
Wondering what to do WHEN SHE'S STARTS TEXTING, CALLING, and EMAILING YOU BACK? Subscribe, and stay tuned for future posts! For now, just ignore her, and let her be.
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