Monday, August 30, 2010

She contacted me! ... Now What?

AWESOME!  So you got that contact from her first, without coming off as needy or desparate.  Now you've just begun the switch my friend. 

First and foremost,  DON'T revert everything you just did and worked for by saying things like THANK YOU, I'VE MISSED YOU SOOO MUCH, or by constantly responding right away to text and calls.  DO NOT DO THIS.

TAKE YOUR TIME in responding, and stay busy.  Be nice to her when she contacts you, and never come off as though your down or depressed.  Utilize time dialation a bit..  Take several minutes answering text to build up that anticupation. Or speak briefly on the phone, like 5-10 minutes, and be happy (but more so happy about what's going on in your life - not that she's calling you) and busy. Stay upbeat, and tell her you'll get back to her or ask her to get back to you later.

If she calls you later, tell her your real busy, or out with a friend, and you'll call her the next day.  Do call her the next day, but wait till towards the end of the day - that night. Otherwise, wait a day or a little longer before you call her back.

After a little while go ahead and plan to do something.  Girls are more attracted to men that lead, and make plans, and have ideas - not that say what do you want to do, or are indecisive.  Tell her you were already headed somewhere, and if she wanted to come along, or tell her you wanted to check out this movie, diner, etc..  Take her shopping with you.  Have her do something you plan. 

Avoid bringing up anything bad about the relationship, and keep the conversation, calm, friendly, and upbeat.

Don't spend a lot on her.  Don't buy her presents..   Avoid any emotional swings, stay strong, like your having a great time without her in your life still, and that your in control of your life.

You guys hit it off great, and now suddenly you find yourself in the bedroom, and ?  Keep checking for more updates.. Should have an updated post very soon.